I haven't done all the legwork yet as far as getting the kidney transplant set in motion. I was thinking of a cadaver donation but I was told that the best match would be a family member. Sister, son, daughter ... a kidney from one of them. Long story short: My family chose to disassociate themselves from me several years ago. After 12 years, my youngest son and I are reaffirming our relationship. I've told him (generally) about me getting a transplant. I'm not sure if I can ask him to get tested at this juncture in time. What I want to know is about the downtime for each of us. I don't work but he does. He loves his job, but it's very regimented. There is no sick pay. If he were bedridden or incapacitated in some way after the op a minimum of a week, he would not get paid. So, what kind of downtime are we talking about?