I belive in a purpose driven life

                Everyone has a purpose in life and has a significance in the world, but which path we take to find it is a choice that we have to make on our own.  I believe that God has a purpose for everyone, whether they are good or evil.  We can either take the long hard road to fulfill our purpose in life or we can let God guide us down the easier path. I believe everything on earth serves some kind of purpose to the world’s existence.  I am not sure if I have always believed this, but I sure do now.  I do not know my purpose in life yet, but I do however think that I am getting closer to finding it out with every waking hour.  I believe we all have a task in this world. No matter who we are, we have to do something before we die.

 It can be as little as letting someone cut in front of me in line at the supermarket or as big as influencing billions of people into my way of thinking.  These purposes all add up to a bigger picture.  For example, let’s say that the person I let cut in front of me was thinking about committing suicide and my nice gesture led them to believe that there is good in the world.  They went off and became the leader of a new revolution that helped the world in many ways.  God has a path for me as he does everyone, and for the last twenty years I think I have taken the long road.

                What makes me a believer know?  In November of 2012, I was diagnosed with heart failure.  The doctors did not think I was going to make it out of Mission Hospital, but I did.  I was transported to Duke University Medical where I received a heart transplant in January 2013.  I survived a Bi-vad surgery and a heart transplant, and it has been six months since and I think I am doing great.  For me, there is only one reason I made it through all of this, God was by my side and I haven’t fulfilled my purpose in life yet.  This is why I believe God did not take me home with him.

                I am not sure what my purpose is, maybe it’s to raise my children so the world will be a better place.  To raise them without hatred and prejudice and teach them to love people and treat people with respect.  It may be to teach my children that different religions are ok and not every believes in the same thing and to fill their lives with love and not hate. To teach them to live their life under the guidance of the God that they believe in and he will guide them down the right path.  As long as I live I will give my family every day I have on earth.

                Sometimes if the weight of the world is too much to bear, just remember that God will always be there.  I thought that for a time to be a good father and husband was to take care of my family financially.   There is so much more to life than just being a good provider.  Anyone can be a good provider, but you have to be a leader spiritually.  We should teach our kids right from wrong.  Men need to be a faithful husband and love their wives like no other.  I think this is part of a man’s purpose for being placed on earth.  I found out that being just a provider is not good enough.  I have to be there for my family emotionally, spiritually, and physically.  If my purpose in life is being the best father I can be and the best husband a woman can ask for, then I have a great job to do. 

                I think that it is our purpose in life or our responsibilities in life to raise our children to make the world a better place for them and their children to come.  Making our life and that of those we love, or even those you don't, more meaningful, leaving a legacy of love and kindness to others, maybe even leaving the world richer by us being in it, that's what matters.

                I've spent a long time being this negative person, allowing too much of the tragedy in the world to affect me, allowing too much of other people's negativity to affect me.  Life's too short to dwell on negativity, it's too short to spend it slaving away at things just because it's what's expected of us. I feel like I'm finally starting to see what life is really all about and how I should be living it. Love is the most important thing. Second to that is wonder, not the baseless, empty wonder, but the wonder that science strengthens. 

                It turns out that no one can imagine what's really coming in our lives. We can plan, and do what we enjoy, but we can't expect our plans to work out. Some of them might, while most probably won't. Inventions and ideas will appear, and events will occur, that we could never foresee. That's neither bad nor good, but it is real.  I think you just need to believe that we are here to serve a higher purpose in life.  Whether we believe in the afterlife or not we are here for a reason, so we need to enjoy our lives and figure out how to make the world a better place.

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  • Beautiful. I too have so much to be thankful for...I try to live my life by kindness and love and big thank you's. I see not all agree with what you have posted here but that ok because we all follow our own path, no rights no wrongs.

  • " It turns out that no one can imagine what's really coming in our lives. We can plan, and do what we enjoy, but we can't expect our plans to work out. Some of them might, while most probably won't. Inventions and ideas will appear, and events will occur, that we could never foresee. That's neither bad nor good, but it is real. I think you just need to believe that we are here to serve a higher purpose in life. Whether we believe in the afterlife or not we are here for a reason, so we need to enjoy our lives and figure out how to make the world a better place."

    AFDuke- you express yourself well and I hope you keep sharing your words of wisdom with us.

  • Padster - 

    Unfortunately, there is no cure for ignorance.  I am not Christian, I am not a Jew, in fact I have no connection to the Bible at all other than curiousity.  But, please note that there are hundreds of other ways to know a higher purpose, a sense of the aesthetic in life.   I do believe that there is a far deeper purpose to life than just existence and each of us have a simple choice - to be an small expression of a Far Greater Unconditional Affection or to live for our small selfish interests.  

    Knowing the connection I share with my physicians, I am certain that they were, consciously or not, the former.

  • Dear AFDuke

    Great quote from your blog

    "  I think you just need to believe that we are here to serve a higher purpose in life.  Whether we believe in the afterlife or not we are here for a reason, so we need to enjoy our lives and figure out how to make the world a better place."

  • To Padster

    Very sad how someone with a good heart such as the writer of this blog post can write such a beautiful uplifting blog that many people want to read.

    Padster- if you have nothing kind to say to someone's blog, don't post.  I find many (not all) of your post to be quite offensive and they will not be tolerated. If your intention is to always be a negative force on this website, please leave.

  • Fair point, but it cuts both ways. Let's see if you can ignore this:

    I believe that belief in a god is nothing more than a crutch to make humans feel better about their situation. It is worthy if futile attempt to make sense of the random nature of our universe. I believe that the bible is essentially a book written by man, because the culture, laws and punishments of the day abound, a clear indication that men were writing what they experienced in their own time. Were it a truly divine book, it would not just be dealing with a particular age in time. The fact that there is no mention of dinosaurs in Genesis supports this. As does the perennial favourite: "where did Cain get his wife from"?

    Best wishes,

    Padster

  • Padster I don't think there is a preachy tone to my writing. No I don't think that everyone who died is worthless, maybe the have fulfilled their purpose in life.  I am not trying to teach anything.  This is my opinion, and last time I checked I am entitled to it.  You have your own opinion and I respect that.  I wouldn't call your opinion's or beliefs stupid because they are yours and we have the luxury to believe what we want..  I guess that is were you and I are different kinds of people.  If you don't like what I am saying then don't read it.  It's your choice.

    I hope you the best

    AF

  • Mark, you seem to understand me very well as a person. If I am being honest, I found your comments about me uncomfortable. I will never find peace, but thanks for the sentiment anyway. That is the most sense you will get out of me!

    Best wishes,

    Padster

  • Padster...since I happen to have a strong faith in God, if you posted something that said the devil ruled the world, then I would choose not to read it. I have read that opinion before, and have made up my mind.

    As Mohan, Mark, and others have said, we have our own perspectives on life. Generally, those of us who are the most positive in our outlook are the happiest, and for the most part, live longer. There is plenty of scientific proof for this.

    Since it appears you are a person who likes specific numbers on a topic, I would like to refer you to a magazine titled, “Scientific American Mind.” This magazine is an offshoot of “Scientific American” which has been respected for many years.

    In each issue, the magazine, SAM, has numerous clinical and mathematical studies on the mind. You sound like a thinker who appreciates current research, so in the case of being able to conquer adversity, I would refer you to the following article titled “Ready for Anything.” It’s on page 32 in the July/August issue for 2013. The website is http://www.scientificamerican.com/sciammind/ 

    There is a section in this article, titled “The Biology of Bouncing Back.” In some detail, it shows the parts of the brain that connect when a person has a positive outlook, and how these parts of the brain, in turn, release chemicals that help us bounce back from adversity. This magazine has similar stories in other issues.

    This is why many of us feel that whatever a person’s spiritual beliefs may be – or not be – then having a strong sense of them, in turn, improves the quality of life. Regrettably, it doesn’t seem like forms of negativity release any helpful neurochemicals and hormones – such as the neuropeptide Y. Higher values of this peptide are connected to better performance.

    Now, I am not a scientist, so I can only try to internalize what the experts say and recommend to us regarding our behavior. But, when reading some of the articles in this magazine, it helps me reflect on past events in my life, and see where certain behaviors had better (or worse) results. Life is a learning experience.

    Maybe I’m just a sucker for science – but having a belief system, whether it’s in God, or in trusting a certain combination of events – gives me joy every day.

     

  • Padster, it is a free world and you are free to your beliefs.  The post we are discussing is from someone who believes in a purpose to life; something which can be psychologically beneficial to all of us.  If you don't need that, there are plenty of other discussions in this forum which may be more to your interest.  Perhaps you can go there.

    And, with regards to those numbers, I frankly do not remember who told me those statistics a week or two after my transplant; all I know is that I trusted them enough to not ask them where on the internet I should refer.


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